Readings for today: Lamentations 3:37-5:22
One of the blessings of suffering is an opportunity for self-examination. A chance to reflect and consider the ways I may have contributed to the pain I am experiencing. It’s all too easy to blame others when we suffer. I think of a conversation I had recently with a young person who was talking about the trauma they experienced in high school. I have no doubt it was hard. I have no doubt they were bullied at times. I have no doubt they didn’t always get the support they needed. However, as I pointed out to them, they too bear some responsibility for the pain they experienced. They skipped class. They refused to listen to their teachers. They ignored their parents. All these things contributed to what they suffered. The same is often true when I counsel couples who are struggling in their marriage. It is extremely rare that only one spouse is at fault. Usually there is blame to go around. The same was often true when I counseled inmates in prison. Yes, there are variety of social factors that may have contributed to their criminal activity but they also bear responsibility for what they have done.
It’s why I find the honesty in Lamentations refreshing. Jeremiah, the author of the book, doesn’t just blame God. He doesn’t just blame the Babylonians. He doesn’t just blame the kings of his nation. He recognizes all of God’s people are to blame on some level for the ways they contributed to their own destruction. “Why should any living person complain when punished for their sins?” (Lamentations 3:39 NET) He openly acknowledges the rebellion of God’s people against the Lord which is why he calls for self-examination in the midst of all their suffering. “Let us carefully examine our ways, and let us return to the Lord. Let us lift up our hearts and our hand to the God in heaven.” (Lamentations 3:40-41 NET) Jeremiah knows God is faithful. He knows God is merciful. He knows God is compassionate. Because he knows this about God, he is confident that when he calls on God in prayer, He will answer. “I have called on your name, O Lord, from the deepest pit. You have heard my plea: Do not close your ears to my cry for relief! You came near on the day I called to you; you said, Do not fear! O Lord, you championed my cause, you redeemed my life.” (Lamentations 3:55-58 NET) Jeremiah knows if we repent and turn to God, He will draw us into His loving embrace once again.
Repentance requires honest self-examination. It requires humble acknowledgement of all the ways we have sinned. It requires us to take responsibility for our failures rather than try to shift the blame to someone else. It’s why the discipline of regular self-examination has always been a pillar of the Christian life. I think of the Jesuits who practice the “Daily Examen.” A rigorous process of self-examination where they ruthlessly cut through all the lies we tell ourselves to get to the heart of whether or not their thoughts, words, deeds, and desires have honored God. There are many other methods as well. The point is to remain as honest and humble before God as possible so we can grow in the likeness of Christ even when we are experiencing pain and suffering.
Readings for tomorrow: Ezekiel 1-4